This workgroup is right for you if: Porn is your primary (perhaps only) sexual/romantic outlet. The term “sex addict” doesn’t apply to you because you’re not having actual sex with real people. You feel isolated and alone and use pornography as a way to cope with those feelings. In this LIVE, INTERACTIVE six-week workgroup, you […]
Scott Brassart Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another sentient being. Addicts often behave as if they lack this ability. This does not mean addicts can’t feel empathy; it does mean they choose to ignore it if and when they feel it. This is especially apparent with partnered sex addicts. […]
Scott Brassart For the past three weeks, we’ve been discussing interpersonal boundaries, looking at why they are so important, misconceptions and facts, and areas of life in which we need to set them. And even with all of that information, boundaries can be confusing. Often, we find ourselves violating the boundaries of others without even […]
Scott Brassart In previous posts to this site, we’ve discussed why healthy interpersonal boundaries are so important and the various misconceptions some people have about interpersonal boundaries. This week, we are focused on the types of interpersonal boundaries that can be set and the areas of life in which we may need to set them. […]
Scott Brassart In my previous post to this site, I introduced the concept of healthy interpersonal boundaries and why they are so important, citing two primary reasons: They protect us from other people. They protect other people from us. That may seem simplistic as you read it here. In fact, I hope it does. But […]
Scott Brassart When I first entered recovery, my therapist asked about my personal boundaries, as well as the boundaries I’d grown up with. And honestly, I did not know how to respond. Mostly because I really didn’t understand what he meant by boundaries. Until then, the most thought I’d ever given to the concept of […]
Scott Brassart In an article last week, I wrote about how recovering addicts can stay sober even when they are strongly and unexpectedly triggered. Basically, this is a three-step process: (1) Know what your triggers are; (2) Plan for how to deal with each of those triggers; and (3) Practice your plan. In that article, […]
Scott Brassart Psychological resilience is an individual’s tendency to cope with stress and adversity. On the surface, most addicts lack resilience. Otherwise, why would they be turning to an addictive substance or behavior as their primary coping mechanism? Underneath, however, addicts often find that they are incredibly resilient. When the “easy out” of addiction is […]
Scott Brassart In an article posted last week, I discussed the fact that recovering sex and porn addicts can develop a healthy and enriching sex life and how to best go about that. The obvious follow-up to that post is an examination of how recovering sex/porn addicts who are not currently in a relationship can […]