Areas of Life In Which to Set Healthy Interpersonal Boundaries

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Scott Brassart In previous posts to this site, we’ve discussed why healthy interpersonal boundaries are so important and the various misconceptions some people have about interpersonal boundaries. This week, we are focused on the types of interpersonal boundaries that can be set and the areas of life in which we may need to set them. […]

Why Are Healthy Interpersonal Boundaries So Important?

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Scott Brassart When I first entered recovery, my therapist asked about my personal boundaries, as well as the boundaries I’d grown up with. And honestly, I did not know how to respond. Mostly because I really didn’t understand what he meant by boundaries. Until then, the most thought I’d ever given to the concept of […]

Basic Tools for Sexual Sobriety

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Scott Brassart In an article last week, I wrote about how recovering addicts can stay sober even when they are strongly and unexpectedly triggered. Basically, this is a three-step process: (1) Know what your triggers are; (2) Plan for how to deal with each of those triggers; and (3) Practice your plan. In that article, […]

Developing “Resilience” in Recovery

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Scott Brassart Psychological resilience is an individual’s tendency to cope with stress and adversity. On the surface, most addicts lack resilience. Otherwise, why would they be turning to an addictive substance or behavior as their primary coping mechanism? Underneath, however, addicts often find that they are incredibly resilient. When the “easy out” of addiction is […]

Can Single Sex/Porn Addicts in Recovery Date in Healthy Ways?

Scott Brassart In an article posted last week, I discussed the fact that recovering sex and porn addicts can develop a healthy and enriching sex life and how to best go about that. The obvious follow-up to that post is an examination of how recovering sex/porn addicts who are not currently in a relationship can […]

Finding Healthy Sexuality After Sex/Porn Addiction

Scott Brassart Recovering sex and porn addicts inevitably ask, “What does healthy sex look like?” We ask this question because at some point we realize that we have no idea what non-addictive sex looks like. In our addiction, we so thoroughly separated our compulsive sexual behaviors from all other aspects of life that we are […]

Four Great Reasons to Quit Porn

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Scott Brassart Why do people decide to quit porn? It’s an interesting question, and after speaking with countless individuals (mostly men) on webinars, in drop-in discussion groups, in online workgroups, and at our Seeking Integrity: Los Angeles treatment center, it seems that there are multiple answers to this seemingly simple query. Generally, however, people decide […]