What does treatment for paired substance use and sex/intimacy issues look like?
Treatment includes both individual and group therapy – most often a directive, accountability and behavior focused modality like cognitive behavioral therapy paired with social learning, psychoeducation, 12-step or other addiction-focused social support, and alternative methodologies like psychodrama, art and movement therapies, exercise, meditation, and experiential therapies. Our psychiatrist might also suggest that you begin a trial-run of an antianxiety or antidepressant medication, as these can reduce not only anxiety and depression but cravings to engage in problematic behaviors.
What is substance/sex recovery?
Fortunately, unlike recovery for alcoholism and drug addiction, sexual recovery is not defined by long-term abstinence. Celibacy is not a long-term solution to sex/intimacy issues. Recognizing this, we define sexual recovery as we define recovery with eating disorders – another area in which long-term abstinence is simply not feasible. Rather than permanently abstaining from all sexual activity, we ask clients to think about recovery as learning to be sexual in non-compulsive, non-problematic, life-affirming ways.
What happens each day in treatment?
- Full Bio-Psycho-Social and Psychosexual Evaluations
- Completion of the Sexual Dependency Inventory (Online)
- Behaviorally Focused Individual and Group Therapy
- Sexual (and Chemical) Addiction Education
- Social Learning and Peer Accountability
- Alternative Therapeutic Modalities (Art Therapy, Psychodrama, Adventure Therapy, etc.)
- 12-Step Sexual Recovery Focus and Participation
- Digital Era (Online) Recovery and Participation
- Prodependent Partner/Family Involvement
- Shame Resilience Work
- Self-Care (Exercise, Meditation, Yoga, Massage, Acupuncture, etc.)
- Aftercare (Relapse Prevention) Planning and Implementation
- Trauma Identification and Containment
- Continued Treatment-Group Interaction (Weekly Online Meetings)
Will I be able to contact my work, family, and friends?
Note: There is a 72-hour moratorium on digital communications after your arrival. Seeking Integrity will notify whoever you want about your arrival, but you will not be allowed to use your phone or any other digital device for the first 72 hours of treatment.
Why does Seeking Integrity look at both substance abuse and sex/intimacy issues?
Many men who engage in both substance abuse and compulsive sexual behavior will admit to one problem but not the other. They admit they have a problem with substance abuse, but not sex and intimacy. Or they admit they have an issue with sex and intimacy, but not substances. Sometimes they go to rehab for the issue they’re willing to admit to, and then relapse related to the untreated half of their problem.
At Seeking Integrity, we understand the interplay between substance use and sex and intimacy issues. And we know that if these behaviors are in any way paired or fused, both issues must be addressed or relapse is almost inevitable. So whatever it is that you admit to when you enter treatment, we’re going to uncover the behaviors that are tied to it, and we’re going to address your problems completely and holistically. Because that is the best (and we think only) true pathway to long-term recovery and healing.