Prodependence vs. Codependence
If you’re a betrayed partner, especially if your significant other is sex, porn, or substance addicted, you’ve probably had someone suggest that you read up on codependency and that you start attending Codependents Anonymous.
You will not hear those suggestions from us. We are not fans of the codependency model. We feel that it is blaming and shaming toward you, holding you responsible for what happened when your only sin is loving a person who made some mistakes or is suffering from an addiction. Codependency would tell you to detach with love, to leave your partner, to let him sink or swim on his own. Codependency would tell you that you love too much, and it’s hurting both you and your partner.
We think that’s a load of you-know-what. We think it’s not possible to love too much. We think it’s crazy to suggest to you that you walk away from a loved one when he’s struggling and finally trying to do something about it.
But what’s the alternative, you ask? Well, we have an answer, courtesy of Dr. Robert Weiss, and that answer is prodependence.