Rebuilding Relationship Trust
If you’re like most betrayed partners, the worst part of the cheating is not the actual sexual or romantic behaviors your partner engaged in. The worst part is the loss of relationship trust. You love your partner and you want to trust him, but after finding out that he cheated on you, it’s almost impossible to believe a single thing he says or does. And this makes you feel like you’re going crazy. One moment you love him as much as ever; the next moment you can’t stand the sight of him.
Unfortunately, you can expect this craziness to continue for longer than you might like. Usually, it takes at least a year before your relationship will start to feel normal again – and that’s if your cheating partner gets honest with you, makes the necessary behavior changes, and stays honest with you. If his personal process of healing progresses in fits and starts, the process of relationship healing will also progress in fits and starts.