Seeking Integrity offers treatment for men who struggle with sex, porn, and substance/sex addiction. We also offer treatment options for couples and betrayed partners. Get help from experts who focus exclusively on these issues.
Sex addiction is an ongoing, out-of-control pattern of sexual fantasies and behaviors that causes problems in a person’s life—relationship woes, trouble at work or in school, depression, shame, anxiety, and more.
Porn addicts compulsively use pornography. Typically, they’ve tried and failed to quit on multiple occasions, often staying away for a few days or weeks. But they return to porn whenever life gets tough.
If you’ve been cheated on and now feel like you’re going crazy, you’re not alone. When infidelity is uncovered, you can’t help but experience that as a powerful form of emotional and psychological trauma.
Seeking Integrity provides 14, 21, and 28-day residential treatment for men dealing with chronic infidelity, sex addiction, porn addiction, and paired substance/sex addiction. Learn About Treatment
Choose from a wide range of low-cost live-facilitated online workgroups for addicts, betrayed partners, and couples. Find a Workgroup
Online Support Sessions
Schedule a low-cost online support session with a Seeking Integrity staff member (Tami, Scott, Eli, David) who will listen and guide you to recovery and healing. Schedule a Session
Book an online consultation or a private intensive with Dr. Rob Weiss or Seeking Integrity Clinical Director Erin Snow. Let Dr. Rob and Erin identify your issues and help you heal. Meet with an Expert
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If you want a vacation, don't go to SI:LA. If you want to be coddled, don't go to SI:LA. If you are ready to be fearless and face your demons and say F*** YOU to your addiction, then this is the place for you. I am now a little more than a month out from leaving SI:LA, and I am 100% certain I made the right choice.
— Treatment Center Alumnus
I am beginning to think you may still have my husband at Seeking Integrity. The man you sent home is present, supportive, and sane. If you still have my old husband there, please keep him. I like this new guy!
— Betrayed Partner
Taking Seeking Integrity’s online workgroups for sex addiction (all three levels) has been amazing for my sobriety. Before, I couldn’t stay sober for more than a few weeks at a time. With the workgroups, I’ve stayed sober for almost six months. Finally, I feel ready to work on my deeper issues and healing my relationship.
— Workgroup Alumnus
I am coming up on 18 months sobriety and honestly could not have done it without Seeking Integrity's help. The program changed my life, and I am so grateful for it.
— Treatment Center Alumnus
Your support to me when my husband attended SI:LA was invaluable. You went above and beyond your job to sincerely talk with me at a time when the trauma and pain I was experiencing was excruciating. I'm forever grateful.
— Betrayed Partner
I was in the very first Sex Addiction workgroup series. Most of us did all three parts together, learning and bonding and growing. Now, more than four years later, our group still meets via Zoom every week. For all of us, the workgroup series and the support that has followed have been vital to sobriety and recovery.
Take a short, free self-assessment to learn if you or a loved one might benefit from professional help for problematic sexual behavior.
Self-Assessment: Sex/Porn Addiction
Take this preliminary assessment test to identify issues you may have with sex or porn addiction. Your answers to this short quiz can help you and a licensed psychotherapist choose the best next steps for getting the help you need.
This brief self-test is designed to identify issues specific to paired substance/sex addiction. Your answers to this short quiz can help you and a licensed psychotherapist choose the best next steps for getting the help you need.
Led by renowned experts Dr. Rob Weiss and Dr. David Fawcett, our clinical team is comprised entirely of master’s and PhD level therapists, each with more than a decade of mental health and addiction treatment experience.
Stated simply, Seeking Integrity values experience and expertise. We do this because we value the quality of treatment we provide. The best clinicians do the best work. Period. And our clinicians are the best you can find.
When concerns about sex, porn, and paired substance/sex addiction arise, both addicts and their loved ones have many questions. We have created FAQs to help with this. Hopefully, these FAQs will answer your basic questions. If you have other queries, please don’t hesitate to Contact Us.
FAQs for Addicts
What happens in treatment?
In a general way, treatment for sex/porn addiction and paired substance/sex addiction utilizes the same basic strategies and techniques as treatment for alcoholism, drug addiction, compulsive gambling, compulsive gaming, and eating disorders. Early treatment efforts focus on containing your problematic behavior. Safety is our primary concern. After that, we focus on breaking through your denial, managing the crisis or crises that pushed you into recovery, and preventing relapse.
Treatment includes both individual and group therapy – most often a directive, accountability and behavior focused modality like cognitive behavioral therapy paired with social learning, psychoeducation, 12-step or other addiction-focused social support, and alternative methodologies like psychodrama, art and movement therapies, exercise, meditation, and experiential therapies. Our psychiatrist might also suggest that you begin a trial-run of an antianxiety or antidepressant medication, as these can reduce not only anxiety and depression but cravings to engage in problem sexual behaviors and substance abuse.
How long will I be in treatment?
Seeking Integrity provides treatment for sex, porn, love, and relationship issues in adult men, with or without a substance abuse component. We offer 14, 21, or 28-day treatment for men dealing with sex addiction, porn addiction, paired substance abuse with sexual behaviors, and associated underlying trauma. To learn more about the proper length of stay, click this link.
What does a treatment day look like?
As part of treatment, you should expect the following:
Full Bio-Psycho-Social and Psychosexual Evaluations
Completion of the Sexual Dependency Inventory (Online)
Trauma Identification and Containment
Behaviorally Focused Individual and Group Therapy
Social Learning and Peer Accountability
Alternative Therapeutic Modalities (Art Therapy, Psychodrama, Adventure Therapy, etc.)
12-Step Sexual Recovery Focus and Participation
Digital Era (Online) Recovery and Participation
Prodependent Partner/Family Involvement
Shame Resilience Work
Self-Care (Exercise, Meditation, Yoga, etc.)
Aftercare (Relapse Prevention) Planning and Implementation
Continued Treatment, Including Group Interaction (Weekly Online Meetings)
Will I be able to contact my work, family, and friends?
Within certain limits, yes. That said, while you are in treatment, it is important that you focus on the task at hand – understanding and overcoming your issues. If you are too focused on outside communication, your process of healing and recovery will be stunted. Thus, we limit the use of phones and other digital devices to early morning and early evening breaktimes. Moreover, digital devices can only be used in common areas. When clinically appropriate, Seeking Integrity staff may revoke phone and/or computer privileges or end a specific conversation. Porn, hookup apps, and similar behaviors are strictly forbidden. At no point should you or any other client access any material that might be detrimental to your treatment or any other client’s treatment. As part of your treatment, your therapist may arrange specific phone or video conversations between you and your significant other. Such conversations should only take place with therapeutic guidance.
Note: There is a 72-hour moratorium on digital communications after your arrival. Seeking Integrity will notify whoever you want about your arrival, but you will not be allowed to use your phone or any other digital device for the first 72 hours of treatment.
What will happen when my partner enters treatment?
In a general way, treatment for sex and intimacy issues, with or without paired substance use, relies on the same basic strategies that work with alcoholism, drug addiction, other behavioral addictions, and eating disorders. Early treatment efforts focus on containing your partner’s problematic behaviors. Safety is our primary concern. After that, we focus on: (1) breaking through your partner’s denial and dishonesty, (2) managing the crisis or crises that pushed him into treatment, and (3) preventing relapse.
Treatment includes both individual and group therapy – most often a directive, accountability and behavior focused modality like cognitive behavioral therapy. This work is paired with dialectical behavior therapy, social learning, psychoeducation, 12-step and other forms addiction-focused social support, and alternative methodologies like psychodrama, art and movement therapies, exercise, meditation, and experiential therapies. Some clients may begin a trial-run of an antianxiety or antidepressant medication, as these can reduce not only anxiety and depression but cravings to re-engage with problem behaviors.
How long will my loved one be in treatment?
Seeking Integrity provides treatment for sex, porn, substance/sex, and relationship issues in adult men, with or without a substance abuse component. We offer 14, 21, or 28-day treatment, depending on client needs. To learn more about the proper length of stay, click this link.
Can I communicate with him while he's in treatment?
Yes, of course you can. In fact, as part of treatment, you will be asked to involve yourself in phone and/or video conversations as part of family therapy work. That said, while your partner is in treatment, it is important that he focus on the task at hand – understanding and overcoming his problem behaviors. Clients who are overly focused on outside communication generally find that their process of healing and recovery takes a back seat. That is something we work very hard to avoid. Thus, we limit the use of phones and other digital devices to break times in the early morning and early evening. And don’t worry about your partner acting out with his phone. All calls must be made in the presence of others, and porn, hookup apps, reaching out to former acting out friends, and similar actions are strictly forbidden.
Note: There is a 72-hour moratorium on digital communications after your loved one’s arrival. Seeking Integrity will notify you about his arrival, but he will not be allowed to use his phone or any other digital device for the first 72 hours of treatment.
What is my role in my partner’s treatment?
Your support and participation are vital to effective treatment, and your voice will resonate throughout your partner’s treatment. There are a number of ways you can and hopefully will participate in the healing and recovery process.
First and foremost, we ask that you write a letter that will be read to your partner in treatment. This letter will explain what you believe the problem is and how that problem has impacted both you and your relationship. You will include things like how long you’ve been aware of the problem, specific thoughts and behaviors that you feel are part of the problem, what life issues you think contribute to the problem, and how you think the problem affects you and your family.
Additionally, our therapeutic team will be in contact with you at least a few times during your partner’s treatment, asking for clarification about certain points and perhaps asking you to participate in a therapist-facilitated video session with your partner as a way of conveying important information or working through a particular issue. At the very least, you will receive updates on your partner’s progress, during which you can voice any hopes or concerns you have. And at the end of your partner’s treatment, his aftercare program will be described to you so you will understand what he needs to do to continue on the path of recovery and healing, and what you can do to facilitate that.
We will also strongly suggest that you find support for yourself. Experiencing the type of betrayal you’ve been through (and are still going through) is painful. So even though you are not the one with the identified problem, you deserve informed and empathic support. To that end, we suggest the free online support we offer through our SexandRelationshipHealing.com website.
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