Can a Behavior (Like Sex or Porn) Really Be an Addiction?

Scott Brassart When people hear the word addiction, their typical first thoughts involve alcohol and drugs. Many people are surprised to learn that behaviors can also be addictive. Even those who work in the mental health field sometimes struggle with the concept of behaviors as potentially addictive. As such, there can be a good deal […]

The Longer-Term Impacts of Covert Incest?

Scott Brassart Typically, covert sexual abuse, defined in my previous post, occurs when a child’s parents have distanced themselves from one another physically and emotionally. (Often, this is caused by an addiction or mental illness in one or both of the adults.) This distancing causes one of the parents to focus on the child, seeking […]

After Infidelity: Three Ground Rules for Healing Your Relationship

Scott Brassart Healing from infidelity is not a pain-free process. That’s the nature of healing. You need to first uncover the wound – all of the wound – so you can assess the damage and take necessary action. And even then, the necessary action may cause pain. For an analogy, think about medical doctors, who […]

Working the 12 Steps of Recovery: Why It’s So Important

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Scott Brassart At Seeking Integrity, we are big believers in the power of the 12 steps, as first developed by Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and later adapted for use in other forms of addiction recovery, including recovery from sexual addiction and drug addiction. Those who seek treatment at a Seeking Integrity rehab learn how much we […]

Surrender to Win: The #1 Paradox of Addiction Recovery

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Scott Brassart The first step in every 12-step program of recovery and healing reads as follows: We admitted we were powerless over [our addiction]—that our lives had become unmanageable. So basically, when we enter treatment and 12-step recovery, we are asked to accept that we have lost the battle, that our problem has beaten us, […]

Four Great Reasons to Quit Porn

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Scott Brassart Why do people decide to quit porn? It’s an interesting question, and after speaking with countless individuals (mostly men) on webinars, in drop-in discussion groups, in online workgroups, and at our Seeking Integrity: Los Angeles treatment center, it seems that there are multiple answers to this seemingly simple query. Generally, however, people decide […]

Understanding Cybersex Addiction

Scott Brassart In today’s increasingly digital world, we can’t avoid the use of smartphones, tablets, laptops, and other internet-enabled devices. And with this technology comes easy, affordable, mostly anonymous access to pornography, webcams, sexting, sexualized social media, hookup apps, virtual reality sex performers, sex-driven video games, and lots of other sexnology. For the majority of […]